Monday, May 18, 2009

Help or Hinder...

Good morning Bloggers! Well it's been ages since I have blogged....not that I haven't had ideas and things to say or ponder because I have. Today's blog is on being a helper -vs- a hindrance.

In Genesis 2 verse 18 it says this.............. The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." You know how you can read something many times and not really read it. That's what I did this week. When I read those words I thought........what is a helper, am I a helper suitable to my husband.....and then on the heels of that thought was..... am I more of a hindrance? Ouch! I am sad to say that lots of times I can be a total hindrance. I don't have his best interests at heart. But I should. I was made to be his helper. That is my roll as a wife. How do I do that with a right heart and not try and see what's in it for me?

This week my husband asked me if I would go to the deer lease with him and some friends to go four wheeling? At first my gutt reaction was to say no way. Why in the world would I want to go out to the lease where I know it's going to be HOT and there will be bugs. But instead of going with my first reaction.....I said yes instead. I could tell I surprised him. I think I surprised myself too. But I did go and it was fun and I think it pleased him very much. Such a simple request. Too many times all I can think about is....what about me...what about me. UGH! I get tired of hearing myself. Ha! So this time I did what he wanted and you know it really was a blessing. I praise God for our time together. Is this being a helper? Yes I think it is....it's putting his needs or wants above my own. That's servanthood my friends.

There are so many ways in which we as women can please our husbands but we don't always do that. In fact a lot of times we won't be kind or respectful to them until they have been loving to us. Talk about a wrong attitude of heart. I have to constantly be intentional about praying for my husband, be an encourager not a hindrance. I need to be my husband's "cheerleader" after all God made me for him. NOT the other way around. Humbling I know but the truth. I realized this week that I can't do this by myself. I need Christ to help me in this area. I have prayed and I know that God will give me the insight and wisdom to be a helper to my husband. I thank and praise God for helping me to see the word helper this week and really ponder it's meaning. So are you a helper or a hindrance to your spouse? I pray that you are a helper. But if you aren't....don't loose hope...help is just a breath away. Until next time....be blessed.